Philip Holland
Civil Celebrant. 📍NSW
The Interview
When was the first wedding you officiated?
‘2005 was my first wedding and yes, that was about 970 weddings ago. Not that I’m counting.’ Laughs
What sets apart an average celebrant from a great celebrant?
‘I think somebody who understands what the couples want and surprises them and over-delivers basically with what they normally expect out of marriage celebrant. Also, being flexible, adaptable. I’ve done so many weddings for couples where we’ve kept in touch ever since. I like to send out “Happy Anniversary” messages for their 1st, 5th, 10th, 15th wedding anniversaries. I generally send the messages out the day before the anniversary and I send it to the husband and I think that if he’s forgotten the anniversary, he is going to be very grateful for this message.’
What is one of the most incredible venues you have officiated a wedding?
‘Well, there was one on Cockatoo Island that was pretty amazing. It was up in these old remains of a convict, stone building on the island there. So that was pretty special. I did one on the roof of the Crown Tower. I’ve done them on farms. I’ve done them on beaches. I’ve done them in backyards. I’ve done so many around the harbour. That’s always spectacular.’
How do you go about approaching a personalised ceremony for each couple?
‘Well, I do two things. One, I give them my wedding manual that is full of suggestions for the vows, the readings and so on and a little planning form that shows the structure of the service. I also stress to them there is a couple of elements in there that are marked in red. They are legal elements which they can’t avoid like that I have to introduce myself and tell people that I’m authorised to perform weddings. I have to read the Monitum, which is the legal definition of marriage in Australia. In the vows, they have to say one particular sentence, plus anything else they would like to say. Then, I have to declare them “married” and witness the signatures along with two other witnesses.
The second thing I do to really personalise it, I offer to write a little story about them. It’s always quite a light-hearted story. I send them a questionnaire with questions like
-How did you meet?
-What was your first date like?
-What did you think of your partner when you first met? What have you done together since being a couple?
-What are the things you like and what are the things that irritate you about the other?
And I always suggest that they print off two copies and answer them separately because quite often, the answers aren’t the same and that can be hilarious on the day. So I then read them out on the day and it’s always a lovely way to start a ceremony. There’s generally a few laughs in there. There’s all sorts of little elements you can include in the ceremony. Sometimes I do, when the parents of the couple are not English speakers, I always offer to do a welcome and a giving away in the parent’s language. I just get them to write out a couple of sentences phonetically and I get a round of applause, you know. It always just goes down so well and makes the day even more memorable and the parents feel like they have been included in the ceremony.’
What reminds you of why you love to do this?
‘Always, how grateful the couples are.
Like, how many jobs are there where you can receive that sort of feedback? Always makes it all worth it.’
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